“Our Son Forever”


On Tuesday, January 6th, Adam and I had an appointment to design Jack’s headstone. We spent a lot of time before the appointment pondering and searching for an appropriate epitaph for our sweet boy. While considering what words might be appropriate for Jack, we were reminded of this quote by Joseph Smith:

dsc05929“The Lord takes many away, even in infancy, that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely, to live on earth…”

“Too pure” and “too lovely” seemed to us to be very appropriate descriptions of our little Jack.

We felt good about Jack’s epitaph, and we headed out to the appointment. We arrived and got started: knowing that we wanted to also try and incorporate stars on his headstone.

They gave us a book of the graphics that they had, and we were disappointed to discover that there were no graphics or designs with stars. As we went through the book trying to find something else that might be appropriate for our boy, one of us said something about how we wished there were some stars. The designer heard us and said: “you know we can do whatever you want, right? We can find images off the internet if need be.” Thrilled, we snapped the book shut and got to searching for some stars.

It took less time then we expected, but we were both very happy with the finished product (as happy as you can be when it’s your son’s headstone you are designing.) They told us that it would take about five or six weeks to get it completed. They would then take a picture, and mail it to us when it was put in.


Today, eleven days later, my mom called to tell me that she had been to visit Jack, and his headstone was in. I am sad that I can’t be there to see it myself, but she said it turned out beautiful. It is just perfect for our little boy.

Jack would have been two months old today.

We miss him.


11 responses »

  1. happy birthday Jack. The headstone is beautiful. Nice work, you’re in our thoughts.

  2. He shares his birth day (18th) with my girls, so now there are 4 people I think of on the 18th of each month. I think those stars are perfect. I think the quote is truly fitting.

  3. The epitaph is perfect and the memorial beautiful. I have thought a lot about the eternal truths that both of you shared at the memorial service. Thank you for helping me to gain a deeper understanding of Heavenly Fathers mercy.

  4. What perfect words to put on his headstone. There is true comfort in knowing that he “is” too pure and lovely to be on this earth.

  5. I think this is one of the most beautiful things I’ve seen all day…Thank you for sharing. I think it’s really perfect!

  6. Jack’s headstone is beautiful.
    Parents shouldn’t have to design the grave marker for their child. It should be the other way around.
    You did a great job on a very difficult task.

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