Earlier this year, there was a lot in the news about a woman who started a movement and organization opposing the LDS Church’s policy that only men are ordained to serve in priesthood offices. The woman gained quite a following, and much of the internet, social media, and news was splashed with stories and arguments about why she was right or wrong. I won’t go into too much detail, since all the stories and information is so readily available to those who are interested, but I will say that this woman asked the church leaders over and over again to allow women to be ordained to serve in priesthood offices and she was told again and again that the answer was no. In June, the woman who started the movement was excommunicated from the LDS Church for “openly, repeatedly and deliberately acting in public opposition to the church and its leaders after having been counseled not to do so”.
Around this same time, on a quiet Sunday morning, my husband came home to tell me that our Bishop had told him that he was recommending Adam be ordained to the highest office of the priesthood, a high priest. Usually a man is ordained a high priest when a calling necessitates it, or when men are at a “mature” age. But in Adam’s case, our bishop just felt like it was “time” for Adam, and “the right thing.”
Adam was ordained a High Priest by his Father on July 20th, 2014
You know, throughout our married life, Adam has accomplished so much and has garnered much praise and admiration from those around him. Academic advisors, peers, colleagues, church leaders, friends, family…none can ever say enough good things about Adam. He is a few months away from having a Doctorate in Astrophysics, and his research has taken him from one corner of the globe to another. He is so well spoken and quick-witted and honest and loving and kind. I am told repeatedly how wonderful and amazing he is. And while I wholeheartedly agree, I sometimes wonder “what do I have to offer? Where’s my grandeur? Adam is off to Washington D.C. and Australia and here I am, going on day four without a shower.”
I know it’s just the natural man and the tired exhausted mother in me that feels that way, because I know for sure that my work and worth as a mother is no less than Adam’s as the provider and patriarch of our home. I know it’s just pride and the eyes and admiration of others that has me longing to be viewed as Adam is viewed. When Adam walked in the door that bright and beautiful Sunday morning and told me that he would soon be interviewing with the Stake President to become a high priest, there wasn’t even an ounce of me that thought, “what about me?! Where is my glory and grandeur in the eyes of the church and the eyes of God?” I’ve never once questioned or felt like my worth in the eyes of God or my ability to do good is related at all to my gender or to the church doctrine that only males are to hold the Priesthood of God. I believe the church leaders when they teach that the priesthood is a great blessing from God to all of His children, and that I don’t need to be ordained with the priesthood in order to be able to utilize its power and have it bless my own life and the life of my family.
I am so grateful to be married to Adam. He does not seek glory or recognition or the approval of his fellowmen. He did not seek to be ordained a high priest. He just lives his life in such a way that he is worthy of admiration from God and those around him. I will never forget the day he was ordained a high priest and how much I admire him and want to be more like him.
Our family following Adam’s ordination