When Megan was about two and a half, I thought: hmmm…maybe I’ll start doing some toilet training. Little did I know that because of Megan’s very unique learning style, toilet training would be one of the most difficult things we would EVER have to do.
This photo was taken in April of 2009 after trying to convince Megan to just sit on the toilet: fully clothed with a diaper on:
In May of 2009, I met a woman who had a son a lot like Megan. She is the woman who first introduced me to hyperlexia (which I blogged about: here). While chatting with her, I asked her about potty training. Megan was almost three at this time, and I had been trying for six months to figure out a way to get her toilet trained. The woman’s eyes darkened and her face fell. “Potty training” she said, “is the reason I will not have more children”. She went on to tell me how difficult it was to find something that worked for her son. I actually walked away from the conversation feeling more hopeful than I had in six months. There was a reason why Megan was struggling, but she would eventually overcome it.
It was hard to keep that perspective however, for the months and year ahead. We have definitely taken breaks over the last two years, waiting for when “she was ready”, but even though she gave every sign that she was totally ready, she still was untrainable. It has been SO DIFFICULT.
In the last few days, however, something has FINALLY clicked and she’s got it down pat. No problem. She finally used the toilet on Friday of last week and has not had a single accident since then. She doesn’t even tell me when she has to go. She just goes. It.Has.Been.AWESOME.
Adam and I have been praying that she might be trained in time to start preschool in September. I did NOT think it would happen. If you would have told me on Thursday of last week that she would be completely potty trained within a matter of days I wouldn’t have believed it one bit. Though cutting it close…our prayers have been answered. We turned in her preschool application two days ago. She still needs to be accepted, but she will probably be starting preschool in two weeks. I can hardly believe it.
Megan has never been officially diagnosed with hyperlexia, but I’ve done a great deal of research about it, and much of it fits her. The reason why I didn’t want her to be diagnosed is because it falls on the autism spectrum. Children with hyperlexia tend to grow out of it around ages 4 and 5, and I didn’t want Megan to wear a label for the rest of her life for something she struggled with only in childhood. She turned four two months ago and the changes in her are IMMENSE.
I have always considered Megan to be a genius with some delays and struggles. Slowly, one by one, those issues are dissolving away. Pretty soon she will be just a plain old genius. 🙂